but if people go through great trauma (say toxic relationships) to finally learn they don't need a romantic partner to be happy

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a lot changes. some are for the better, and some take a toll. -karoshi

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then why not just learn how to be happy? and not get into a toxic relationship

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But its definitely nice to have a partner though

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and i mean relationships as a whole

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TRUE

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god karoshi i swear ur either a therapist or should be one lmao

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very true purple

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Like life is so heavy, its nice to have someone with you to carry that burden

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ty i aspire to be one hehe -karoshi

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however by wanting a partner, i rely on someone else for my emotions and jappiness

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ha ud be a great one

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Thats not quite true

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how so?

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i'm the kind of friend that coaches everyone else but just falls deeper myself

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but even if you still are insecure about some things. like a boat welling with water. there's multiple holes you want to fix. -karoshi

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A true happy relationship, you dont dependent on each other. but more raise each other to be better

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i guess that's what u would call a "people pleaser" huh?

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hmm

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you cant fix them, all you can do, is abandon that boat, and swim back to shore. -karoshi

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i agree with raising each other to be better

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real i get called a people pleaser -karoshi

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haha my dog is staring at me

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but how can you not be dependant in a truly happy relationship?

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Its a symbiotic relationship, not. a parasitic

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yeah but surely symbiotic relationships have duos that some way rely on the other?

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how are YOU karoshi? -snow

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yeah your right, ill change what I said

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this is giving me a lot to think about

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A healthy relationship, you guys of course a certain degree DO rely on each other

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i feel like the tiktok ban gonna make this worse bc all my comfort vent content is on there and when i feel hopeless the best thing i do is pull up tt in incognito

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i agree

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uhh sad, lovesick, nauseous, and worrysome. but it's fine ^^ -karoshi

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i'm anxiously waiting for the day that they save it somehow

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awwww

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i feel bad for u karoshi

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i get these feelings often -karoshi

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i know that when u say "its fine" its NOT. because i say im fine and im never fine

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so it's somewhat normal for me -karoshi

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i feel like i think this because i want a partner who can help me emotionally and maybe that's because i myself aren't helping myself emotionally

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