oh one sec

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why r u upset with them?

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I'm convinced I'm not allowed to have emotional problems in their presence.

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why are you convinced of that?

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Everytime I do, they somehow flip the situation so it's about them again.

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:(

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And then I have to help them again.

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thats awful yellow

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they need to let you have days where its about YOU

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not about them

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have you talked to them about this?

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And today they woke me up in the middle of the night for something, and IMMEDIATELY started crying when all I did was angrily sigh about it.

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thats crazy

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I don't think I can talk to them about it.

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My mom does similiar things and shes very emotionally manipulative

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I'm scared they're just gonna make it about them again, like they always do.

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i would watch out yellow fr

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those might be red flags

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I wouldnt like that at all in a partner

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If you have to, you may need to go to couples counseling

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because a relationship wont work long term like that

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they need to realize what theyre doing is hurting you and making you feel unseen

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And they tell me all the time "I value communication in a relationship!" and they've left me terrified of communicating.

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and if they care enough theyll stop

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and if not, then they didnt deserve you

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But I don't want to lose them.

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I know

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This is the closest thing to real love I've ever had.

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but if theyre hurting you, whats worse?

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staying in a relationship which hurts you, or moving on and having a chance at something better?

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Im not sayng thats the only option ofc, im just some random person across the keyboard

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I don't think I'll ever get anything better.

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Especially in a year like 2024.

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KNOWING it's gonna get worse.

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But if you need to for your mental health it may be an option to think about

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You can always try to make it work

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but you guys will have to talk

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i dont know what to say if they turn it around and make it about them though :(

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again maybe couples counseling?

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I'm still afraid to talk to them about it.

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