about what though im so confused

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Are you getting frustrated because your gf just keeps fightinf with people or are you correlated??

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about the server itself, its like dying

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hmm

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why are frustrated from that

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any maladaptive daydreamers here

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I used

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to

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idk, plus since starting dating her I've become distant with other things, like I told her I dont like my friends so she doesn't think I'd rather be with them

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idk if im not getting the context, but if you dont like your friends then wouldn't it make sense for your gf to support that?

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But cyan, you gotta talk to your gf

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I do like my friends tho

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i used to maladaptive daydream SO mcuh

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i like dressed up and made up all these stories

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but i dont have the energy to dress up anymore

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then why'd you say you dont like them??

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i feel like a lot of people don't understand that you can't really control it

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bc she'd think I'd rather be with them than her

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Theres an obvious balance and moderation with things like that

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Cyan, you gotta talk to her though

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stand up for yourself

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If you dont like the situation, let her know, work things out.

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if I do that tho, she'd say its her fault and that I must hate her or something

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But this is hypothetical isnt it?

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this is all "if"

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well thats what she does with other things

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You dont like living like this

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You have to do yourself a favor,

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Or you will keep living walking on eggshells around her

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Yeah, you're right

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Actions is better made now than later, because it will be harder to leave for you and your safety

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but like, the thing is she has seperation anxiety, so when I'm gone we still talk so she doesn't like hurt herself

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and then it will be a lot more scarier for you

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I understand that, I really do. I used to have a friend who was so dependent on me,

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They would hurt themselves if I dont always pick them

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over my life

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But you gotta also know that. You are not their guardian, their parent or their caretaker

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It's not your responsibility, even though it hurts

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In a different angle, you might even be enabling their actions by staying with them against YOUR will

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And I say this with love. Because I dont want to blame you

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