like im fucked

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i dont want to be stuck in learnt helplessness but im so done, i feel so done

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i haven't had friends in 2 years

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never dated

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my problems are my own, and theyre ones i can fix, but i dont want to because theyre solutions to OTHER PROBLEMS and then they multiply into bigger and bigger issues

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like for fucks sake i feel suffocated by myself

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what's gonna happen if i start dating eventually and i end waking up in the middle of the night doing that stuff to myself

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i'm sure i'd be left on the spot

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i'm messed up

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blue youre 15, dont feel guilty abt looking up r34 and not having dated, youre not messed up

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youre 15, your brain is hotwired with hormones and sex its literally normal

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i'm constantly doing it though

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like 3-4 times a day

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sometimes more

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trust me, everyone was a little freaky when they were 15, ur constantly doing it bc its the only way you find intimacy and affection

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im not saying you should jerk off all the time everyday but youre not a fucked up person for that

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and again, I woke up in the middle of the night doing it in my sleep or something

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also im assuming ur a guy, teenage boys get hardons in their sleep all the time its a biological thing

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even when youre older youll get hardons during sleep

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thats not a bad thing at all

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even as you get older it happens

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its just that our brains nowadays- genz and gen alpha

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i wasn't hard then, I was literally doing that stuff when i woke up

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theyre hardwired into craving increasing amounts of dopamine- the brain chemical that makes you happy

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or at least in simplified terms

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you do it all the time because you're addicted to constantly being stimulated, it can be scrolling jerking smoking whatever

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its all the same,

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but how do I stop it?

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if you want to be better, you need to divert your attention away from jerking off

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how?

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i can't find a way to stop

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My mom has made it known that its safe for me to come out to her. I havent yet, but, I feel like I can actually breathe now

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honestly all you gotta do is find something else to do with your time

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it kinda makes me wanna cry. Bc I honestly thought she'd never accept me if I told her.

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thats literally it, find something fulfilling, a hobby that keeps you interested and engaged and rewards you

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i can't do much at all in my life tbh, I'm homeschooled, my parents won't let me out of the house, I can't even watch what I want on tv

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learn a new language, or how to play an instrument, build a skill you can slowly develop overtime

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you dont have to leave the house at all

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i can't ever focus though

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But we had a LONG talk abt the lgbtq, and she said she was completely okay with it. And its been such a huge weight off my shoulders

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